I give myself the same gift every year. Permission. Permission to be authentic with my grief. Permission to lean into the darkness while acknowledging it’s “OK to not be OK” for a while. Permission to play my grief card and say “no” to any invitation or skip any activity that does not feel helpful to […]
Another loss. Another funeral. This one for a friend’s husband. A loving father and fearless warrior who held strong, endured unimaginable pain and fought courageously for every last moment of this life. The similarities of struggle and loss stir painful memories of my own darkest hours. I knew going in; there would be various triggers […]
Bad things come in threes. Sad but true, and as much as I’d love to ignore this little superstition, it seems to have once again unfortunately entered my life. Two dear friends recently lost their spouses, dying much too young. Another friend’s wife has taken a turn for the worse in her battle against my […]
I believe we all have a village. Friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, classmate parents, and acquaintances. When we think about all the people in our lives, from the nearest and dearest to the familiar faces that surround us on a daily basis, we realize the extent of our own personal villages. Although these villages vary in […]
Here's one we are constantly revising in our heads. We want to say something but often start overthinking it: What's the best thing to say? How do I say it without stirring up sorrowful emotions? Should I say anything at all? While everyone experiences loss differently - these were the best 5 things said to me while grieving the loss of my husband.
Someone close to you has just lost a loved one. What should you say? Or rather...what shouldn’t you say. I know these 5 things were well-intended, but while in the thick of grief, they ended up having a rather negative effect on me. Here are the worst 5 things said to my while grieving the loss of my husband.